Lonely matters (to you)

It’s good to put other people first, consider how another person feels, and “get over yourself”, right? I mean, we’ve all heard that from self-help books, yoga teachers, therapists, parents, and friends. We know that being selfish is bad. Helping others is good even if it hurts. But wait. We’re also told that you can’t...

Being With You Exactly the Way You Are

“I feel so silly,” my new client says soon after I come inside his home. He nervously makes tea while continuing, “This is a silly haircut and my beard should be fuller. Or maybe I should be clean-shaven. Have you been in Colorado long? Oh, maybe I shouldn’t ask that. Is this like therapy and...